Self Confidence is Built One Step at a Time
“Beginning with Believing that you can”
Trusting yourself and Believing “YOU CAN”, together with learning the art of Flexibility without losing sight of your core desires, goals and dreams is major step to remaining motivated and determined.
Building your Self-Confidence is critical for a balanced, happy and healthy life. There may well be people whom you have met and just seem to ooze self-confidence, but when you get to know them better they have difficulty staying on task, following a plan and their goals through.
7 Key Factors to Building Self-Confidence
- Begins with bringing to you conscious mind these three words – “I can do this”.
- When you come across an obstacle or difficult task, say these words – “There is always a Way.”
- It is the innate ability to see a task through to the end, no matter how long it takes, believing in a positive outcome or result.
- It is the ability to take responsibility for your successes, failures, mistakes and outcomes.
- Believe it or not it is the ability to admit when you are wrong, not having to be right all the time.
- Understanding that mistakes are a part of life, learning and growing to build the life you desire. Don’t allow your mistakes to define who you are, but to use them as a guide to becoming who you want to become and build the life you want to live.
- Remember to reward yourself for the small achievements and positive actions that you implement each day.
Building Flexibility is Essential for a Healthy, Happy and Successful Life
This is a refresher from your lessons in the Community Membership, it is definitely an important component to when it comes to achieving success, patience and resilience. I don’t know about you, but my days rarely go according to plan there are a variety of changes, at time incidences even tragedy and distressing events. Where you will have to do a curve ball to what you were expecting to do or how you were expecting to do it. This is where having only 2 or 3 main tasks to your day is important. Firstly, this isn’t too many, it will give you a sense of achievement and also keep you focused on your direction.
Flexibility your Roadmap to Successful Change is About
- Developing self-awareness
- Stepping out of your comfort zone
- Learning to communicate effectively and positively, both to yourself and others
- Listening more than you talk
- Developing Patience: Waiting for all the ducks to line up in a Row, or maybe allowing them to be a little crooked.
- Understanding that it takes lots and lots of small steps to make Big Changes.
- Sanity and Sustainability – bringing together clarity, emotional balance in just taking one step at a time.
7 Key Steps to Develop Flexibility:
If you are or have become a person with a rigid, uncompromising view of the world, this may have come about due to trauma, tragedy and negative experiences and is quite common. It is like a safety net that your subconscious provides to prevent further hurt or emotional upset. However, if you allow this to continue, it will prevent you from enjoying all the great things in life and building happy, successful relationships. The key here in these steps is to teach your mind how to be flexible once again. Apply these Seven Steps each day to cultivate and develop a Flexible Mind once again for a Healthier and Happier You.
- Developing Self Awareness: A Major Key to creating and building a successful life, begins with Building your Foundation, changing your Perception to how you want to feel, your thoughts, how you react and how you want your life to be. Bringing these into alignment with your Core Desires, this is what will keep you on track with building your life of Optimal Health, Happiness and Vitality. Keeping your Core Desires in mind with your Core Values of How you want to Feel and Be is what will help flexibility and the ability to change course at any given moment but without compromising yourself.
- Being adaptable to your immediate thoughts and reactions. Always to remember the bigger picture, your core desires and dreams. For example, one of your core desires maybe to have a more peaceful home environment with your family, less conflicts. So, your first reaction, if one of the kids brought home a friend for tea, at the last minute, would be to get upset and complain. However, you just remembered before displaying your upset or complaint that your core desire, was in lessening family conflicts, so you decide to let it go this time, setting an extra place at the table. Later when the visitor has gone home, you just mention that maybe next time you could be given a little more notice. Open your Mind to Possibilities- when your mind becomes rigid, it has stopped looking at all the varied possibilities, it may have even become closed in believing in achieving your dreams or maybe it isn’t recognizing that you have in fact achieved if not some many of your dreams. I had this one recently, I was feeling down on myself until I went back to what my core desires were, now don’t laugh because these core desires go back now over 45 years ago. Then I realized that I had achieved most of my core desires and dreams. By recognizing this not only did it help me to feel better within myself, yes, my mind but also in that I could accomplish any dreams or desires that I wanted. For this exercise go back to what your core desires are, rewrite them if necessary, then tick off any that you have achieved. Then add to the list any that you are still wanting to achieve. There doesn’t have to be a time frame or anything like that now, you are opening your mind to possibilities.
- Stepping out of your comfort zone: Everyone wants to feel comfortable that can be one of the major obstacles to overcome when wanting to make positive changes. Hence the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone. Depending on your emotions and frame of mind at the time, this may be a little tricky. So, starting with small changes, so it isn’t too much of a shock to your system. Especially if you have been used to a structured, even somewhat rigid routine. This is where the importance of your core desires, dreams, aspirations and then putting these into action, changing of your thought processes, with affirmations comes into play. Stepping out of your comfort zone gives you the ability to expand your knowledge, your confidence and your zest for life. Often an underlying cause for not stepping out of your comfort zone, allowing your mind to become rigid is that there is still pain in your heart that filters through to your mind. Healing your Heart by Healing your Mind begins by implementing a positive element or outcome to even the most devastating of experiences. Focusing on what is good, kind and beautiful..
- Communication – Listen with an Open Mind – Often when in a conversation, you will be just waiting your turn to talk, even with an answer or suggestion before you have even heard the full message in the conversation. The key here is to stop thinking and planning less in what you are going to say, listening more so when you do speak, you will have a better understanding of what you are going to say. This develops more flexibility with your thinking, improving your connection and conversation with other people. Learning to communicate well is not just about learning to express your thoughts, plans and beliefs, it also is important to “Listen”. Because effective, positive communication is vital to bring about change, listening to others will give you great insight, learning and knowledge both for your life and into the changes that need to be made. I would like to take a moment to explain something here, being positive, doesn’t mean that you go into la, la land believing that everything and everyone is wonderful. If only that were true, how boring that would be, “it is within the great differences that lie between us, that bring us together as one”. (Julie Doherty) Developing a more constructive and positive way of behaving and communicating is about looking at alternatives, how to solve problems that are directly associated with your home, family or work environment. When you communicate in this way, you will be remembered as someone who is of help, not a hindrance.; Listening. As mentioned previously, effective listening is such an important part of flexibility. It took me a long time to learn the art of effective listening, as has been a problem for many of the people I have worked with over the years. Because our minds are always thinking ahead or thinking of an answer when someone is talking to us. So, this is one of the most important areas in developing flexibility, because when we hear clearly what someone else is saying, being flexible becomes much easier because we know what is happening, therefore making change once again, becomes less stressful. Be Open to varied suggestions: There is always more than one way to solve a problem and often there are several ways to do one thing. This is a positive link to helping you with not giving up on achieving your goals and dreams.
- Patience: I am sure you are familiar with the saying: “Patience is a Virtue”. So, what exactly does that mean? I like this meaning of patience, “Patience” is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances”. “Virtue” meaning a sense of integrity, honour, trust and honesty”. So, putting that together when it comes to developing your flexibility, is that you are building your ability to endure and face difficult circumstances, to rise above any obstacles and difficulties with integrity and honour. Providing you “Success” at its deepest and most profound level.
- Small Steps: Big Changes -Takes Small Steps. Developing flexibility is one of the biggest challenges you will overcome, giving you the strength, endurance and clarity to successfully bring about positive changes. The reason I say that is one of the biggest challenges is that, as human you want the changes to have happened yesterday, so you go about putting too many things on your daily –“To do list” or I also like to call it “My Task Schedule”, only to become frustrated, losing motivation and losing the ability to be flexible because it all isn’t happening as quickly as you want it to be.
- Sanity & Sustainability: Let’s get some clarity here that will help with your sanity and managing sustainable changes. By developing small steps for example, 2 – 3 things per day on your – “To do list” that are new, different or require a great deal of thought and perspective. Is going to be instrumental in expanding and developing your flexibility, being the key element to the success you will achieve, one step at a time.