Men have Feelings Too! Deserving of a Life of Optimal Health, Vitality and Happiness
Both Men and Women need Warm, Loving, Relationships for Healthy Life
Sharing Your Life with People Gives You a sense of Your Identity adding dimension to your Life and Life’s purpose
If this is Lost or Depleted from Your Life it may have Detrimental and Disastrous effects on Your Health.
Both Personally (having been married for over 43 years), three sons, also my dear my father whom I came to know and care for in his later years.
And Professionally having counselled and treated many men throughout my 27 years of clinical practice. I have come to have a fairly comprehensive understanding of men.
And Men too, want a Life of Health, Happiness, Love, Commitment and Purpose.
So where Do You Begin!
Modern medicine tends to turn your health into a numbers game—weight, BMI, cholesterol, blood pressure, heart rate. Getting on top of these problems all comes down to the foods you eat, your lifestyle habits, engaging in regular exercise, learning positive coping mechanisms for stress and simplifying life to enjoying the fundamentals like peace, joy, happiness, love and nature.
This just seems to have the ability to turn you away from wanting to implement any type of health strategy because it just seems to hard.
The major problem for men isn’t so much that they don’t want to be healthy, they are not expected to have any thoughts towards their health. Especially from a longevity perspective.
Over the centuries you have been programmed that you are the Protectors, Providers and Procreators. Now in modern times all of this has changed. Your role has taken a broader spectrum with a need to bring a balance to not just your male attributes but to bring out a balance with your feminine side. So as to communicate more effectively, acknowledging that you do have feelings and want also a life of purpose, love and meaning.
Food – The Foundation of Optimal Health
Understanding the elements of healthy eating, having a balanced diet, minimizing animal protein to one serve per day. That being lean and the size of the palm of your hand. Fill your daily intake with fruit and nuts for snacks and of course vegetables. Your root vegetables are great, healthy sources of protein as well as adding eggs and fish to your daily intake. Eliminating fast and junk food, as well as highly processed foods. Your green vegetables provide you with vitamins and minerals for healthy heart, brain, bowels, circulation and detoxification.
With your food stick to the “KISS” principle – “Keep it Simple Stupid”. Not meaning that you are stupid for one minute, but we can all fall into the trap of making it too complicated. I have found talking with my clients in my clinic that the most challenging meal is breakfast because many people are either in a hurry or not hungry. So follow this link for easy breakfast suggestions.
Relationships play a vitally important role in your health and well being. Choosing relationships where you have similar foundational dreams, goals and expectations is of vital importance.
Being supportive within relationships with one another of each of your needs. This will vary throughout a lifetime. Being on the same page as far a family values and commitment are concerned.
In past times there has been a lot of injustice, inequality both for men and women. However you don’t bring about equality by becoming an island to yourself without working out how to live with one another. Complimenting one another’s differences, bringing you into some form of balance, significance and importance.
Difficulty Talking About Your Feelings
Generally speaking as a man you are aware of the difficulty you have talking about their feelings, fears, anxieties: Even to people that are closest to you. As a man you tend to think -“If I put on a brave face and just get on with it, everything will be alright.
One of the Biggest Killers of men today under 45 is suicide. In 2014, 4623 people took their own life. 12 men everyday, 1 man every 2 hours: 41% of men who contemplated suicide felt they couldn’t talk about their feelings.
Then you have the slow suicides, smoking, overconsumptions of alcohol and drugs in an attempt to push the feelings away. Then to top it all of it is all just too much to think about the food being eaten, just whatever. It’s all too hard!!!!
It’s OK to talk – Talking to someone whom you can trust, whom you know isn’t going to judge you but be supportive of you in a positive and constructive way.
7 Steps to Take Control of Your Life for Optimal Health and Happiness:
- Whether Man, Woman or Child You are a Miracle – a True Gift from God.
- Find Balance by understanding the Role your Mind and Thoughts have to play with your physical health.
- What do you want for your Life. – Your Health, Your Relationships, Your Career – what do you Enjoy doing and what are you Good at.
- Mix with people who will support you in taking on Healthy Habits, Not encouraging you to go to the pub or sit at home getting drunk, stoned or smoking yourself to an early grave.
- Understand that as a man you do have feelings and deserve to be treated with kindness, empathy and warmth.
- Listen: First to you own body and the signals it is giving you. Also to listen to people who are living positive, healthy and constructive lives.
- Ask Questions – Friendships are an important part of everyone’s life and part of developing positive friendships is in sharing one another’s lives. Being interested in the other person.
Change in Equality is Not Brought about by Emphasizing a Person’s Faults
Equality is Brought about by Recognizing each Person’s Attributes – Julie Doherty